It seems every self-help guru under the sun these days wants to point you to setting goals. Goals are wonderful, we all need a direction. The problem comes in that many people take that to the extreme. They become so goal oriented and focused on what they desperately want to happen way in the future that life is zooming right by them day after day and they are not able to be present in their daily life, enjoying the here and now.
Take time to appreciate what’s good in your life already
If you aren’t doing these things on a regular basis, you could actually be sabotaging your dreams by being too action based and focused on the future.
Appreciation and gratitude for what we already have brings more of the same energetically. Action steps towards goals are fantastic, just so long as you make sure you aren’t lost in a blur of reaching constantly while still feeling a state of lack for what you don’t yet have and yearn for. Yearning and a feeling of not having something, in turn, bring more lack.
If what you are currently doing makes you feel good, happy and complete on a daily basis, keep on going. If it makes you feel tired, worn out, and like you are missing out on life it may be time to re-evaluate how your time is spent.
Time is an interesting thing. None of us know exactly how much of it we are allotted. Spend the time you have with people you care about, doing things that make you happy.
There really literally is “no time like the present” the past and the future do not exist.
Life really is that simple.
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Our physical health does not exist in a bubble. The mind, body, spirit connection is the trifecta of overall wellbeing and optimal health. In modern day life we are so scheduled and so rushed all of the time with appointments, social engagements, work, school, family, friends, we barely have time to sleep let alone consider […]
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Our physical health does not exist in a bubble. The mind, body, spirit connection is the trifecta of overall wellbeing and optimal health.
In modern day life we are so scheduled and so rushed all of the time with appointments, social engagements, work, school, family, friends, we barely have time to sleep let alone consider self-care as anything more than a luxury.
This is problematic thinking.
Somehow taking the time to take care of ourselves has been labeled as selfish. The truth of the matter is that if you do not take care of yourself and put yourself first, at least once in a while, you will eventually get worn down. At that point, you are no good to not only yourself but to anyone else either. In that worn out mode, you can become depressed, too exhausted to cope with daily life, or even physically ill. In any of these scenarios, it becomes even more difficult to continue the level of support you give to others.
Taking the time to care for yourself on a deep spiritual, emotional, and physical is necessary for your continued health, quality of life and longevity. It has been proven time and time again through neuroscientific studies that the brain is ever changing and can rewire itself back to optimal function when given the chance to relax, unwind, be at peace and actually heal.
In light of this, Monarch Wellness has chosen to offer several neuro-friendly integrative services to help you develop an ongoing state of tranquil mindfulness.
Some of our modalities which incorporate the whole brain and neurological system include:
- Sand Tray Therapy (the right creative brain is engaged during the building phase, and the left brain is integrated through storytelling as the builder translates the tray into verbal language to make sense of it)
- Play Therapy (integrates both the creative (right) and thinking (left) parts of the brain)
- Restorative Sound (the vibrations move through and around the body in a circular motion, creating a dance of right and left brain integration, and balancing out the complete nervous system)
- Yoga and Laughter Yoga (by definition, yoga means union in that it unites mind-body-soul, person-larger purpose, and unlimited other interpretations of union through the integration of movement and inner reflection)
While it may feel selfish at first to take the time out of your busy week to attend self-growth related classes, you will soon come to realize that by doing so what you are offering those around you is incredibly valuable – a new more energized refreshed happier version of you.
To learn more please visit www.monarchwellness.net. You are also invited to attend our upcoming Open House. https://www.facebook.com/events/270025216773156/
Saturday, April 29th from 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm at Monarch Wellness 843 Myrtle Terrace Naples, FL 34103.
3:30-3:50 pm SALIMA-Children’s Yoga
4-4:20 pm DEVI-Gentle Yoga
4:30-4:50pm PEGGY-Integrative Relaxation
5-5:30 pm WILLIAM-Restorative Sound (Crystal & Tibetan Bowls)
RSVP here: http://monarchwellness.net/open-hours-anniversary-rsvp/ or Call 239-231-3208!
We are human. It is bound to happen in life that each of us will make a mistake that will in some way hurt another person. Once we realize it has been an error on our part that has caused the damage if there is any hope to repair it an apology and amends need […]
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We are human. It is bound to happen in life that each of us will make a mistake that will in some way hurt another person. Once we realize it has been an error on our part that has caused the damage if there is any hope to repair it an apology and amends need to be made.
Saying you are sorry and actively meaning it, having learned from the situation, are two entirely different things.
What’s the difference?
It isn’t all that difficult to utter the words “I’m sorry” for most people. The problem becomes when, though they do feel regret in hurting you, they often times revert right back to what they were doing once forgiven. It can become a pattern.
The best apology is changed behavior.
What is difficult at times is changing the behavior behind the event so that the apology is validated by the resolve never to repeat it again. Only then is true healing on both parts possible.
Open communication on both parts is vital to bridge damaged friendships and relationships. We know it is not always easy and sometimes can benefit from working with a facilitator to act as a third party mediator. Monarch Wellness offers professional counseling services right here in Naples, FL. To learn more please visit http://monarchwellness.net/physchotherapy-counseling/
The Why’s? Ask yourself why you are making the decision you are… what is your motivation? Often we make snap decisions without really understanding the basis behind them. Take the time to understand what drives you and your choices. STOP When faced with a choice or decision, it often feels like the response should be […]
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- The Why’s?
Ask yourself why you are making the decision you are… what is your motivation? Often we make snap decisions without really understanding the basis behind them. Take the time to understand what drives you and your choices.
When faced with a choice or decision, it often feels like the response should be immediate. Look before you leap is a wise old adage. Before reacting, just stop. Pause. Wait… simmer a bit. This helps you to remain at cause rather than ending up at the mercy of effect.
Practice articulating how you feel without placing blame on others. When you remain responsible for your choices and actions, you retain the power.
Mastering self-control is vital. Say “No” to yourself sometimes. Work on refusing temptations which do not benefit you, and especially any that could cause harm.
- Play Lawyer
Or Devil’s Advocate – flip the script and see things from an opposing view. Sometimes this can help open your perspective or even strengthen the view already held.
- Take Responsibility
Hold yourself accountable for your actions, flaws, mistakes and consequences of actions. Breaking agreements, even with yourself can be damaging to the psyche.
- Enough with the negative self-talk!
Just stop it. Drop the critical commentary. Celebrate your wins and forgive yourself any perceived failures. Most failures are simply lessons – we learn and next time are better prepared.
- Find a Mentor
Feedback is vital. Find someone whose opinion you respect and let them help guide you.
- What is your body saying?
Are you aware of your body? Do you notice your own stance, posture, gate and hand gestures? What are the conveying to others? Simple things like standing up straight, meeting someone’s gaze or not crossing your arms gives you an aura of confidence and assurance. In turn, you tend to feel more that way as well.
- Know ThySelf
What are your strong points, skills, gifts and talents? What are your weaker areas? Play to your strengths and minimize the weaknesses or if you are so inclined, work on them to become stronger.
Take an honest look at yourself on every level. Spiritual, emotional, mental, physical. Keep track of your progress as this is sure to change over time.
It can be a challenge to focus and quiet your mind, just start with something simple like 10 minutes a day. If thoughts come to your mind, brush them away and refocus. Tip: Guided meditation is easier for beginners than silence.
For more tips, ideas, classes, one on one sessions, events and seminars please visit www.monarchwellness.net
In the day and age of social media where you can “add a friend” in a mere click, how do you distinguish the difference between an actual friend and someone who is just an acquaintance? That line is blurry for many. Friend collecting has become a virtual popularity contest. Facebook limits you to 5000 friends, […]
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In the day and age of social media where you can “add a friend” in a mere click, how do you distinguish the difference between an actual friend and someone who is just an acquaintance?
That line is blurry for many. Friend collecting has become a virtual popularity contest. Facebook limits you to 5000 friends, though the number of followers you can have is endless. Say you reach that limit. Of those 5000 people, how many do you know in person? How many do you even recognize their names?
Not to say that social media cannot result in making genuine connections, it can. But this begs the deeper question.
What is an acquaintance?
An acquaintance is someone you have met in passing. You do not know them very well and haven’t made a particularly deep or solid connection. They are a surface level version of a friend.
What is a friend?
- A friend is someone who you enjoy spending time with, who you relate well to, you feel a connection with and whom you have things in common.
- A friend is someone you can confide in and trust.
- A friend is someone who genuinely cares about you and your wellbeing.
- A friend is someone who isn’t motivated selfishly in their intent who has your best interest at heart.
- A friend will defend you to others.
- A friend will speak well of you behind your back just as they would directly to you.
- A friend is someone with whom you can be yourself completely.
- A friend values your friendship and you theirs. There is mutual respect.
- A friendship is a two-way street, it is balanced in giving and receiving.
When you find a true friend, value them. Be good to them. Treat them as you would like to be treated. When this is done on both parts, that friendship can last a lifetime.
Real life friends aren’t made in a single click, it takes time. Acquaintances come and go, but true friendship is to be valued and cherished.
Visit www.monarchwellness.com for more blogs on friendship, relationships, happiness, life, yoga, therapy, healing, as well as local events – Monarch Wellness is a wonderful local resource for bringing the community of like-minded individuals together. That is how friendships often start.
Do you take the time to tell and show your loved ones how much you care about them? In this fast-paced instant communication society things like simple hand written thank you notes have fallen by the wayside for many. Compliments: When you notice something positive about someone, take a moment to tell them, be it […]
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